I learned that girls who wear striped knee socks are trouble, yes, but I continued to make assumptions about exclusivity up until my 30s, and usually ended up the ass who got my feelings hurt.When we finally became exclusive, I thought all this anguish was worth it.Hi Nice Guy and Fuckboy, I’ve been seeing a guy on and off for about six months. Our first date went really well — way better than I expected.He always plans our dates around things I have said I like doing or my favorite foods and drinks.Between now and the last six months, though, a few things have happened. We’ve told each other how we feel in terms of liking each other, but nothing has progressed in terms of being in an exclusive relationship.Recently, I got back from Thailand, and we have been out for a few dinners and sleep overs.
If a man is truly into you, he will want to claim you as his own in order to define a line so that you won’t still be out there shopping. Your partner has a fear of commitment based on past experiences 2.We’ve gotten pretty comfortable, and have had a few nights just ordering in, watching movies and drinking a few glasses of red wine and beers. To me, we have a great connection – we can lay in silence and just hangout on our own and it won’t be awkward. and I can’t be sure, but I think there are other girls.Not to mention, the sex is great (although sometimes I wish there were more). Apart from that, we are pretty consistent with messaging, although I don’t feel we are going anywhere, which could be very much to do with me, as I can be a closed book.With that being said, if “the talk” has not happened after, let’s say 3-4 months, it is safe to say that there may be something else going on in his mind that may be stopping him from fully claiming you as his. His idea of a relationship is different than yours 3.He’s not good at (or fears) speaking his truth/feelings (fear of vulnerability) 4.But, we are technically not exclusive (meaning, we talked prior to sleeping together and said that we were both able to date others, if we wanted).However, we talked more recently and we both said that we aren’t dating anyone else, but we didn’t explicitly say that we are exclusive.I would like to know that he isn’t sleeping with anyone else and won’t be sleeping with anyone else while we are sleeping together.Should I have the “defining the relationship” conversation with him or should I wait and allow things to evolve more?Last weekend, we went for dinner with my best friend and her boyfriend, and two of his friends who are married. The next night, he had an event, then he came and met me and all my friends, and stayed over again…It’s getting to the stage where I don’t want to see anyone else.I don’t want to put pressure on him, but I feel I need to know where I stand so I can either keep dating or we can actually give things a go.