A way to put those years of therapy, which had taught her that the easiest way to heal was to forgive, to the test."Wow, thanks," responded the now-stranger."No problem," she replied. The man who, according to Ani, was a pathological liar and master manipulator; who left her depressed, anxious, and bedridden for months; and whose name she could barely speak since their breakup in 2004.
She was on guard for the humiliation..lack of control..hateful ways.
But victims of emotional and verbally abusive relationships know those feelings all too well.
They know how just the thought of that person — no matter how far removed — can stop them dead in their tracks.
I spent my whole relationship hoping my wife would “grow up” and had no understanding of BPD and its impact.
What I got from the relationship was adoration, but not love and I mistakenly confused the two as the same thing for many years.